Pediatric Hospice Patient can’t see, hear or speak due to self inflected gun shot wound yet we communicated at another level. I was concerned how to communicate with him but it ended up he communicated with me. My gratitude I practiced meditation to communicate with others by non physical means. via /r/gratitude

I am a Hospice RN and was to help care for a 16 year old boy who in a suicide attempt blew off his face but missed his brain. No frontal skull, no eyes, no mouth, deaf but conscious. Due to inability to graft with no scaffold of facial skull, his brain he's dying of infection and placed on Hospice. I've been a Hospice RN since 1990 when I was a charge RN of a 35 bed AIDS unit, which basically was Hospice at the time.

The day before I met the family and the patient I had concern how to communicate with the boy. As I've learned to do ages ago in a class I took in meditation called The Silva Method, a 4 day class in willfully lowering brain waves to Alpha or lower for problem solving, I did the techniques I learned there.

In my meditation, using my imagination I pictured the boy sitting in front of me. In my mind I asked him how can I best serve him tomorrow, how can I communicate with him. In the technique you sit back and see what answer you get. I saw him place his left hand palm down on a table and he motioned for me to do the same. Our middle fingers touching we withdrew our little finger and thumb so only three fingers showed on the table. He then, in my meditation, lifted his three fingers up and tapped them on my three fingers, lay his fingers down on the table and I did the same to him. This image in my mind repeated a few times and it ended.

I wondered what the significance was, was the answer about fingers or the number 3? I didn't know. I find I get the answers a few days later when I meditate on a problem.

The next day I go to their house. Mom lets me in and touches her son's arm and moves his hand to mine. He felt my arm and face i think he realized he didn't know me. His condition was overwhelming even if he was in ICU from the wound where his face had been. As Hospice nurses working the the home we're armed with a thermometer, some disposable towels called Chux, gloves, sprays and ointments which did little to contain the trauma that this boy was experiencing. As I gathered the dressings to do his wound care he tapped my hand and put his hand down before me, just the three middle fingers, not the little finger or the thumb exactly like in my meditation the day before. He lifted his hand an inch and tapped his three fingers on my hand and lay his hand down. His three fingers on top of my three fingers, just as he did in my vision of him. I did the same to his fingers and lay my hand down. This repeated two more times, his three fingers on mine, then mine on his. His mom came back in the room and saw this. She said This is what she and her boy do to identify her to him. They did this since he was a child as the three fingers pointed down made a "M" which stood for 'mom.'

He did it for me, exactly like in my meditation the prior day. His mom said he trusts me like he trusts her and let me do his dressing change without fuss as he had in the past with other nurses. I continued as his nurse until his death which was soon after this due to infection.

My intention was to communicate with my patient using my mental techniques I've practiced for years to better understand a situation. In reality the meditation allowed the boy to communicate with me. Was he having a NDE from the darkness he was having in his body? Was he able to share his NDE with me because in meditation I was receptive to him?

Good intentions, working in deeper levels of mind as Alpha or Theta brain waves you can really experience connections with other levels of consciousness beyond your own. I was able to help this boy and his family as best I could in such a bad situation. Interestingly, my intention was to communicate with him and in the end, it was he communicating with me.

He picked up on the inner connection and knew I was there to help he and his mom. Or maybe, he was already in the inner world connection and I merely dipped my toe in the water in meditation and recognized a bit of his Spirit adventure he was embarking on. Absolute fact is he and I connected at a Spirit level the day before our meeting. Who, what, when, where does any of that matter? We had a soul to soul experience. Did I go to him in my meditation or was he already there with me waiting until I was receptive to his vibration? You tell me. I don't know, but this was a lifechanging experience I am totally blessed with and I will never forget him.

I still think of him, feel him near me at times, touching in to say 'hi' with a full, beautiful face happy and smiling. What a wonderful opportunity to reach this boy soul to soul or mind to mind and we both understood the other without typical communication. What a life changing lesson I learned or maybe relearned from him.

I'm a better person, a better nurse today because of this experience with this boy and I send him love and gratitude for it. I recently reconnected with this mother. She said I could share his story, I'm going to make a video about it. Again, I as a nurse, a care giver became a care receiver from one of my Hospice patients. He and his mother taught me another way to love. –David Parker RN Phoenix, Az