I am grateful my adopted son can now grow up with his biological sisters. via /r/gratitude

I (41f) am going through such a hard season of life. It hurts so much that I can’t even move sometimes. I could stay in bed for days if I didn’t have to get up and provide for my kids.

But tonight put me in check once again…..

I picked up my son from my ex husband this afternoon. My ex-husband isn’t talking to me and it’s been a tough couple of days between us. But we’ll sort that all out…. eventually.

My 18 year old daughter has her very first boyfriend/date/love/everything! She and I are usually inseparable but she hasn’t been around the last couple of weeks. But I am so happy for her.

The boy she is undoubtedly falling in love with, happens to be a boy she has known since she was 8. They were in dance together. he was her lift partner before they separated to different studios and teams when they were 11/12. I know him and he is so much like her. Kind, soft and sweet. I never predicted that would happen but as soon as she told me, i wasn’t at all surprised. She was always selective with boys and who she gives her time and attention to. The boy (young man?) she picked definitely deserves her.

My youngest child is adopted. His biological sisters (the 4 girls closest to him in age) were all adopted in the same home 7 years ago. We used to visit them on their farm when my son was little. As fate would have it, they moved from their farm (over an hour away) into our city. The most amazing part is…. I bought a house after my separation and now our families live 4 blocks from each other!!!!

His sisters walked over and picked him up, got slurpees and then came back over. 2 of his sisters are 18 and 19. His one sister looks exactly like their biological mother. What are the chances? They all love each other so much and it was so nice to have the girls in my home. I love them. it’s incredible they have that accessibility to each other. There is a lot of entangled identity issues, grief and loss with adoptees. This is such a wonderful outcome for all of them. They were all adopted and they still get connection and accessibility to parts of the biological family consistently. My city had just under 300k in population so it was very serendipitous.

My kids have been on vacation with their dad this past week. They seemed to have had the best time. I missed them so much and I am so stupidly lonely. Especially when they aren’t here with me. But that’s been ok. I am truly lucky for all the wonderful things I have in my life. Life didn’t work out how I had planned and that sucks but I couldn’t have written what happened next any better. What beautiful stories, relationships, and happiness. What a truly beautiful life I gave them and I built for myself. In spite of all the pain and loss. I truly have a wonderful life. I need to always remember that,