Celebrate with me?! I initiated two heavy conflict chats with friends today… and one went well! Super grateful. (T/W) via /r/gratitude

The other one might go well too (we're in different time zones). The fact of the matter, this is remarkable: I've been so unbelievably lost and traumatized for years. I was recently sexually assaulted and wanted to touch base with someone who'd given me bad advice (from a well-intended place) about encouraging me to see the guy I had doubts about. The friend said what I wanted to hear, so he was blameless, although for the first couple weeks after the assault I was definitely deep in judgment of the other friend for their role in a bad experience. By the grace of God, I was able to get underneath it today and set the intention to connect with my friend soul-to-soul (vs wound-to-wound). Big big deal!!!

I've been r*ped twice as an adult and am an adult survivor of CSA. The social support I got for all the prior stuff was so, so atrocious. It's pretty great to be able to cry with someone together, own the mess, and be met with kindness and care.

I would love for anyone to join me in celebrating!!! It's a weird win to be grateful for, but a win nevertheless.

Historically, I'm so avoidant I've wondered if I have a legitimate case for ASPD, so this is unbelievably major. The friend handled it graciously and we cried together. Life is messy, and I'd like to celebrate showing up for it anyway.