I’m grateful my husband and I are so different via /r/gratitude

I met my ex when I was 14 and fell in love with him before I understood what love was. I emulated him for some reason. I liked the same things that he liked. I don’t know if it was a way for me to make him love me back or a way for me to feel accepted into the tribe.

Over 25 years later when we broke up I found myself lost. Not knowing what I really liked. Everything that I knew about me was attached to what my ex was. We were so much alike. It was really disorienting to be on my own after that. I knew I had to find out what I liked on my own without any other outside influences.

When I met my husband it kind of bothered me at first just how different we were. He’s a bit older so we have a generational gap between us. I caught myself trying to like the same things as him just like I did with my ex but I was hip to my jive this time. So I was able to correct it and not repeat old patterns.

This opened up the chapter in my life where I finally found myself. I’m still finding out new things about myself everyday. I feel like a brand new person. Learning that I like things that I would have never had the opportunity to even experience if I was still with my ex.

I’m thankful that I’m in love with someone that I’m nothing like.

In thankful that I’m finally becoming my own person and I fall in love with her a little more everyday.